Self Value

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Would it surprise you to know that the majority of the people you know most likely suffer at least a little from having low self value. Even the ones who look as if they have it all, are doing it all probably have little self value. It is something that is easily faked by slapping a smile on your face and moving forward everyday all the while people assume that all is well. Too often what others see of us is not how we see ourselves for example....

So how does this happen you say? Well it happens because to often we feel we are not good enough, don't do this good enough, don't say that good enough, we are just not good at insert any number of things here. We constantly tell ourselves that we are is just not good enough and it doesn't take long before our actions start to match our thoughts. We allow others to treat us as if we don't matter and over time it slowly erodes any feelings of self value that we might have had.

Often as mental health counselors working in various fields we see clients who have little self value. You would be amazed at what having no self value can cause a person to choose to do. Notice I said choose to do because I believe that we all have choices and we make choices in everything we do, it doesn't simply happen, we choose to let it happen. Clients will come to us and say that they feel they have no choice but they are simply choosing not to choose. Once we can help them understand that they do indeed have a choice then change begins to happen. Feeling like you have a choice to change your own situation is powerful and opens up a whole world of options. So the next person you come into contact with try to say a nice comment about them.......this just might help them understand and feel valued.